A pregnancy story by Joanne

A pregnancy story by Joanne

Pregnancy story by Joanne

Welcome to the second in a series of  posts written for you by real Mum’s to be.  Each article will share the pregnancy story of one Mum to be, who will each share their labour and delievary experience when baby arrives.  I hope that these real life accounts of pregnacy will help other expectant Mum’s to feel secure in the knowledge that the things they experience and feel during their pregnancy are all normal events and emotions and part of the journey to motherhood.

Joanne’s Pregnancy story

Today we meet Joanne and Megan.  As a same sex couple Joanne’s journey to pregnancy is a little different.  Megan has written a lovely account of their journey to parenthood from the perspective of baby Matson. 

Finding a donor

For most women the search for the father of their child begins way before they decide to even have a child… they are hunting for a friend, a partner, a mate… for my mummies, they found each other first. After a short courtship, a slightly longer engagement and an even shorter marriage they decided it was time to turn two into three!

It wasn’t as ‘easy’ as monitoring hormones and finding the right time – they had to hit the internet to find a donor – to find a generous, selfless human being who would be willing to give them the greatest gift – ME!

The process of finding a donor is not as easy as you might think – instinctually you look these men and their photographs and you view them as you would a partner. They had to fight these feelings and look for men who would be suitable DNA providers, not life partners. They found many men and communicated with these gentlemen only for them to change their mind, or let them down when it came to meeting them.

But they found The One! A PhD scientist (Big Mummy is a scientist) and a history nerd (so is Little Mummy). He is tall like Big mummy with blue eyes like little mummy. He was keen, willing and also happy to donate to bless me with a sibling!

Finding out they were pregnant

After 8 donations they were beginning to feel like this wouldn’t happen for them. With little mummy being older she was going first. They had done everything “right”. Little mummy had stopped drinking, she was taking her conception vitamins every day, she was eating well, drinking lots of water, and weeing on ovulation strips constantly. Multiple tracking apps were being used to ensure they covered all of their bases.

Thursday night before half term, Big Mummy had noticed the dogs were being weird… “Shall we do a test?” Little Mummy went into the downstairs loo, and took the test – Big Mummy was watching through the crack in the door. Big Mummy knew from the look on Little Mummy’s face that the test was positive! They both cried a bit, and laughed a bit and got excited… then got really scared…

Early scare

So I was just chilling and growing, but Little Mummy had a little bit of tummy pain – nothing to do with me… but her and Big Mummy were scared so they went to the doctor who sent them for a scan… I was there, but I was tiny, just a little yolk sac no heart beat yet (but seriously what did they want from me?!). The nice lady at the hospital brought them back two weeks later and there I was with my beating heart… Both of my mummies were so excited to see my little beating heart and that I was growing as the doctors expected me to.

12 week scan – how things had changed

My mummies didn’t tell many people about me growing inside of Little Mummy – just one of my aunties and a couple of people at work who needed to know! It was the last day of term before the Christmas holidays, and they had to go for the 12 week dating scan.

Drinking the litres of water ready for the scan was very difficult for Little Mummy, and she had to be a little bit sick in the car park! I don’t mean to make her sick… but Big Mummy finds it very funny!

There I was – a perfectly formed little baby. Ten fingers and toes, and a squishy nose. I was perfect and they both fell in love with me instantly! They couldn’t wait to get back to work to tell EVERYONE that they know that they were expecting their June bundle of joy!

Ssssshhhhh to social media – telling the family/friends

Once my mummies had that 12 week scan they set about telling friends and family. They wanted to make the announcement for the family special – so they printed special frames and put my scan picture into the frames and wrapped them up as Christmas presents. We went around to the family to visit and they gave them one to open early. Some family members were SUPER EXCITED. My auntie was also growing my cousin Grace at the time so she was so really excited that her baby could be friends with me. I mean who wouldn’t want to be friends with me.

My mummies have decided that they don’t want me to be splashed all over social media, and also have decided to keep the pregnancy a little bit schtum until I come out. It has been hard for them as the close friends who know do know keep tagging them in things on FaceBook! 

20 week scan – no sex please

With the excitement of their last Christmas as just the two of them, the few weeks between my dating and anomaly scans flew by. Before they knew it we were back at the hospital and that same lady was pushing into me… she kept trying to look at my different bits and pieces and well I found it rude and an intrusion. So in true Baby Matson style, I made life as difficult for her as I possibly could. If she wanted to look at my face, I covered it with my hand. When she wanted to look at my heart, I crossed my arms across my chest… and when she wanted to look at my nether regions I crossed my legs! I mean really – HOW RUDE… 

Long before I was even a twinkle in their eyes, they agreed that they would remain Team Yellow. Anyway I heard her tell my mummies to look away when she was look at the bum end – then I heard my little mummy tell my big mummy off because she tried to sneak a peak. Big Mummy might be brilliant at literally everything she does, but even she couldn’t tell if I was a boy or a girl. Long before I was even a twinkle in their eyes, they agreed that they would remain Team Yellow.

The longest wait EVER

After the anomaly scan my mummies started shopping for me – they started to buy me clothes, and nappies (real ones that they have to wash my poo off of) and even some toys. They went off for a long drive (obviously they took me with them) and came home with a cot and a chest of drawers and a special chair for mummy to sit in when she feeds me. I heard them talking about colours and themes – can’t wait to see what they chose! To be honest I found it a little boring and so fell asleep and didn’t find out.

The next 20 weeks would be the longest in my two mummies lives – I continued to grow and kick my little mummy from the inside… then kick my big mummy through my little mummy.

My little mummy got bigger and bigger until she resembled a weeble – I mean one time she even fell over in the garden and wobbled back and forth unable to get up – big mummy may have stood in the kitchen watching through the window… laughing…

My pet dogs were obsessed with me – they kept insisting on lying on my little mummy with their heads on me. I tried to kick them off but my legs are still only little and all they did was get jiggled around.

The nice midwife kept pushing and prodding me – trying to figure out how I was lying – she didn’t realise that I still have plenty of room to float and twist and turn in there. Big mummy kept herself busy washing my clothes and blankets and my Auntie Tamsin threw my mummies the loveliest of baby showers where I was spoilt with lovely thoughtful gifts.

Little mummy insisting on staying at work for as long as possible, which annoyed big mummy a little bit – think big mummy was worried I would arrive AT SCHOOL! They would probably have to have named me after the school – not sure I like the idea of being called Haven Matson!?

They have taken me to all the classes – how to get me out, how to care for me and about how I will develop. They took me for a walk around the hospital – I really liked the birthing pool – I hope I get to swim in there. Now all they have to do is wait. I like to wind big mummy up by pushing little mummy around and making her think she has back pain so they get excited and think that I am coming. I will come when I am ready – and not a moment sooner!

Thank you Joanne and Megan for sharing your pregnancy story with us.  Baby Matson has now been welcomed into the world and I look forward to sharing an udate with you all soon.

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    A pregnancy story by Naomi

    A pregnancy story by Naomi

    Pregnancy story by Naomi

    Welcome to the first in a series of  posts written for you by real Mum’s to be.  Each article will share the pregnancy story of one Mum to be, who will each share their labour and delievary experience when baby arrives.  I hope that these real life accounts of pregnacy will help other expectant Mum’s to feel secure in the knowledge that the things they experience and feel during their pregnancy are all normal events and emotions and part of the journey to motherhood.

    Naomi’s Pregnancy story

    First up we meet Naomi.  Naomi is a midwife and a first time Mummy to be. Naomi shares her pregnancy story with us at 37 weeks gestation. 

    My experience of pregnancy has truly been a wonderful one. Being my first pregnancy and being a midwife myself I thought I knew all the answers about being pregnant and having a child. But being a midwife doesn’t give you that mother’s instinct – that is what has set my profession and being a mummy-to-be apart. Having this experience for myself has developed my knowledge and empathy further, making me a better midwife.

    Finding out I was pregnant was a very wanted surprise, so when the £1 pregnancy test taken out of curiosity showed two lines, I screamed with excitement. My husband and I had been trying for a few months and after a few major melt downs by me, I thought we wouldn’t get pregnant. So that day I surprised my husband as soon as he got back from work with the baby grow I had gotten made months ago. As all men are, he was quite clueless as to what the “little” gift was for.

    This was really happening! In the early weeks I did experience some bleeding and was sent for a scan but thankfully everything was happy and healthy. Being a midwife, I think in some respect, made me worry more. My Husband thought was and is very good in keeping me level headed. Everything from then on has been generally straightforward and an absolute joy. I have loved being pregnant.

    My husband and I chose not to find out about the gender of the baby and for us that has been one of the most exciting parts about being pregnant. From planning the gender neutral nursery and the fun in choosing names for both. However, nothing quite prepares you for the wonderful feeling of your baby’s little movements inside you. I did have a moment of concern at 32 weeks of pregnancy when I experienced an episode of reduced movements. When all the guidance I would usually give a woman, went straight out the window. As a mother carrying her child and the overwhelming need to protect them completely takes over. It’s an incredible feeling. Its important to know that each pregnancy is unique and you’ll soon understand the instinct of “something’s not right”. One piece of advice I would like to share is to call your maternity unit/midwife if you have any concern.

    Even though I have enjoyed my pregnancy and it has mainly been straightforward, I have suffered with pelvic girdle pain in the last trimester. I definitely experienced the ‘pregnancy waddle’.  I think my boss called me a weeble wobble at point! I was looked after by my midwifery team and was referred to a physiotherapy for a support belt and exercises which did help. I also have hypothyroidism so needed to be under consultant care. However, one consultation later, I was discharged from consultant care and I was happy to be told I can still have a water birth when I go into labour.

    Being pregnant your life seems to become so busy! All the antenatal appointments with the midwife, relentless blood pressure taking and urinalysis testing, antenatal classes, ultrasound scans, birth plans and preparing the nursery have all been a whirlwind of excitement. It’s important to grasp hold of every moment, as it comes and goes by so quickly. I have been carrying out pregnancy yoga and listening to hypnobirthing audios to help equip me for the upcoming event – labour! I feel like all the support I have received through pregnancy has prepared me for motherhood as well as it can and we are very excited for our awaiting arrival!

    Thank you Naomi for sharing your pregnancy story with us.  I hope your delivery goes to plan and look forward to hearing more when your little bundle arrives.

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      5 reasons to take pregnancy photos

      5 reasons to take pregnancy photos

      5 reasons to take Pregnancy photos

      One of my biggest regrets when pregnant with my 2 girls is the lack of photos of my baby bumps.  I don’t have any of my first pregnancy and maybe one photo the 2nd time around.  Why?  Because I felt like a whale and was really self concious.  With my eldest I put on a lot of weight, and I mean a lot and I hated the way I looked.  It was mainly water retention so my whole body was swollen, I even went up two shoe sizes!  When I told Elizabeth this tale she laughed and asked if I have a picture,  and it breaks my heart that I had to say No!   With Alyssa it was the complete opposite, I gained very little weight and had the tiniest neatest bump ever but I was so busy running around after a 1 year old that I never made the time to record my journey.

      With my own expereince at the forefront of my mind I want to share 5 great reasons why you should make sure you don’t end up with the same regrets as me.

      1.  Pregnancy is a thing of beauty, awe and amazement.    You might feel tired, nauseous, sore, aching and frumpy, but those on the outside don’t see  the things that may lead you to think that you look terrible! Instead, your loved ones see a beautiful woman bringing a new life into the world, with a gorgeous little baby inside of her.

      2.  If you don’t have pregnancy photos, you’ll lose the chance to create once in a lifetime memories – you can’t get back.  Photos also trigger memories, feelings, emotions… they help you remember more vividly. Even if you don’t care for the memory for yourself, I can promise you that when your children are older, they will be delighted to see the photos of their pregnant mummy, while they were growing inside of you. They won’t care, or see that you felt tired or frumpy, all they will see is the magic of pregnancy and the love you had for them before they were even born.

      3.  Whether it is just the two of you, and bump, or if you have older siblings to join in on the fun, I’m a firm believer that you cannot  have too many photos of your family. Plus, if you already have little ones it’s a beautiful opportunity for them to bond and interact with your belly, all while being captured on camera.

      4.  For most woman pregnancy is full of ups and downs, I know both my pregnancies were.  At times you will feel worn out, achy and fed up, and at others time gorgeous, excited, and on top of the world   Although it may feel a long time while your  baby is growing inside you, it is actually such a short journey, and that in itself is a reason to have that time photographed.  I think that it is wonderful to be able to look back once your baby is here, and have some beautiful images to do that with. 

      5.  I think, finally, I just simply believe that pregnancy needs to be celebrated. It is such a precious gift to be carrying your baby.   Just as families will choose to have a baby photoshoot of their newborn baby, to celebrate their little one’s arrival, pregnancy is amazing and should be celebrated too.  I adore pregnancy photos for that reason, they are always full of excitement, happiness, anticipation, and love.  You have made a new life, and are keeping your baby safe until they are ready to be born and meet you.  Seriously, that amazing!

      So if you are pregnant, please do get in touch to talk to me about a pregnancy photoshoot, and celebrate the little miracle growing inside you.

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        The purpose built garden photography studio near Spalding, Lincolnshire is easily accessible from Peterborough, Stamford, Bourne, Boston, and Kings Lynn

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        A baby Photoshoot collection

        A baby Photoshoot collection

        Baby Photoshoot – A full collection 

        Are your pregnant or have a new little addition to your family?  Many congratulations on your little bundle.  Newborns grow and change at an phenomenal rate and before you know it your beautiful baby has become a smelly, moody, teenager.  My own little miracle is fast approaching the teenage years  and it’s hard to remember those tiny fingers and toes.   I didn’t know about booking a specialist Baby Photoshoot back then but I am so thankful for the wonderful baby photos I have of my tiny baby girl.

        In those early days whilst you are wrapped up in your new family it is so easy for your little one to change and you not notice until it’s too late. Your newborn has become more alert and that sleepy curled up baby has gone forever.   If you make time for one thing in those first weeks  I would strongly recommend looking at baby photographers in Lincolnshire,  and booking  a baby photoshoot to capture those precious memories. 

        My personal photography style has developed over the last few years and my baby photoshoots include a range of natural and posed images capturing your newborn both awake and asleep, using a range of props and blankets to compliment your home. My service incorporates discussions with you to ensure that the images captured during your baby photoshoot  suit your family and personal style.

         

        As photographers we showcase our favourite images within the portfolio on our websites.  Whilst this is great for demonstrating our style and perfectly posed images, I thought that you as parents researching a photographer  may find it beneficial to view a full collection from a baby photoshoot.  The images displayed within this post are just that.  They showcase the full gallery shown (and purchased) during the viewing appointment of one of my recent clients.  This is a typical example of a baby photoshoot gallery from a session at Slice of Life Photography.

        Reserve your Baby Photoshoot Session

        Newborn Sessions start from just £79 and can be reserved anytime from your 20 week scan. To secure your due date please book via the form below.

        1 + 8 =

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          Specialising in Baby Photoshoots, Wedding Photography and creating stunning Fairy Photography.

          The purpose built garden photography studio near Spalding, Lincolnshire is easily accessible from Peterborough, Stamford, Bourne, Boston, and Kings Lynn

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          Whaplode
          Spalding
          Lincolnshire
          United Kingdom

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          07545 778016
          Mini Newborn Photoshoot

          Mini Newborn Photoshoot

          Mini Newborn Photoshoot

          Newborn Photography is one of the specialisms at Slice of Life Photography and I am delighted to introduce the new Mini Newborn Photoshoot Package.  A mini newborn photoshoot is perfect for busy families that don’t have the time to commit to a full length bespoke newborn photoshoot.  A Mini Newborn Photoshoot is streamlined and simple in design, allowing for me to offer 1 hours sessions in an all inclusive package.

          What does a Mini Newborn Photoshoot include?

          A Mini Newborn Photoshoot is a 1 hour session that includes 5 digital images sent to you via dropbox.  The shorter session is focused solely on the baby and will not include any family or sibling photos.  I will capture a series of images of baby wrapped and snug so if they aren’t sleepy we can still capture some beautiful images.  I will use the beanbag for the majority of images however if baby is settled and calm then 1 prop may be included.

          A Newborn Mini Photoshoot offers simple styling and will consist of 1 colour palette (either brown or grey).  If you would prefer a more bespoke Newborn Photoshoot then please look at details of my standard Newborn Photography package.

          This special Mini Newborn Photoshoot can be booked for the fantastic all inclusive price of just £149.  This cost covers the 1 hours studio time, a full professional editing service and 5 digital files chosen by the photographer.  An option to purchase the additional images is also available.

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          Reserve your Newborn Photography Session

          Newborn Sessions start from just £79 and can be reserved anytime from your 20 week scan.

          To secure your due date please book via the form below.

          10 + 6 =

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            Specialising in Baby Photoshoots, Wedding Photography and creating stunning Fairy Photography.

            The purpose built garden photography studio near Spalding, Lincolnshire is easily accessible from Peterborough, Stamford, Bourne, Boston, and Kings Lynn

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            Whaplode
            Spalding
            Lincolnshire
            United Kingdom

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            07545 778016

            Learning is never ending

            Learning is never ending

            Learning is never ending

            1st June 2018

            I have often shared posts on Facebook with you all about training I have undergone as part of my photography journey. I am a firm believer that you never stop learning and that to be the best newborn and children’s photographer I can be that I need to develop and improve my skills regularly.

            Last year I invited the wonderful Claire Elliott from Forever Memories Photography to my studio for a 1:1 training day to work on my Newborn posing skills. I was so inspired by her teaching and everything that I learnt that I was quick to enrol for her 1 week residential training retreat in May of this year.

            This course took place near Ashbourne in the heart of the Derbyshire countryside, in a beautiful converted Barn. Myself and fourteen other likeminded photographers spent five wonderful days immersed in all things photography.

            We studied from dawn to dusk (and that is no over-exaggeration), covering everything from photographing newborns, posing and styling for little sitters, toddlers and older children, lighting techniques, photographing outdoors, editing techniques, business management and for me the most important one, a session surrounding being a responsible photographer and baby / child first aid.

            The week was very intense with lots of learning and hands on practise with some wonderful children and models, we even spent time practising on one another to capture some up to date head shots. It truly was an amazing week with a wealth of knowledge learnt and some amazing friends made.

            I look forward to putting into practise what I have learnt with you all soon.

            Marie

            Keywords: Training, photography training, newborn photography, sitter photo shoot, lighting techniques

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              Slice of Life Photography

              Specialising in Baby Photoshoots, Wedding Photography and creating stunning Fairy Photography.

              The purpose built garden photography studio near Spalding, Lincolnshire is easily accessible from Peterborough, Stamford, Bourne, Boston, and Kings Lynn

              Address

              Whaplode
              Spalding
              Lincolnshire
              United Kingdom

              Telephone

              07545 778016