A pregnancy story by Sophie

A pregnancy story by Sophie

Pregnancy story by Sophie 

Welcome to the fourth and final post written for you by real Mum’s to be.  Each article will share the pregnancy story of one Mum to be, who will each share their labour and delievary experience when baby arrives.  I hope that these real life accounts of pregnacy will help other expectant Mum’s to feel secure in the knowledge that the things they experience and feel during their pregnancy are all normal events and emotions and part of the journey to motherhood.

Sophie’s Pregnancy story

Today we meet Sophie, a first time Mummy to be.

On 19th February is where my life changed, for the better – I found out I was pregnant. At first I had so many emotions going through my head. The main worry I had was, what if it happens again? Back in October I had a miscarriage which messed me up emotionally. I went in for my 12 week scan to find out I had an empty pregnancy sack, this was the most heart breaking news. I kept thinking what did I do wrong, was it something I ate, am I not meant to be mum etc. I have always wanted to be a mum and to have that taken away was awful. 

When I found out I was pregnant again I just wanted to cry. I wasn’t as happy as I was before. It was only a few weeks before I found out I was pregnant where I told my partner I wasn’t ready to try again – little did I know I already had a baby inside me. My partner was brilliant and tried to reassure that everything will be okay and no matter what happens, we have each other. He really has been my rock.

6 weeks into the pregnancy I kept getting stomach pains. After speaking to the early pregnancy department, they scheduled me a scan a few days later. Having to wait for my name to be called out felt like a lifetime. I was so worried and was expecting them to tell me its bad news again. During the scan they confirmed there is a baby and it is around 6 weeks old. Everything looked normal and they couldn’t see any problems. I was advised it will just be growing pains and to take paracetamol to help with the pain. They said I shouldn’t be worried as it all looks okay but, that is easier said than done. 

Up until my 12 week scan, I was still paranoid every day. Being careful what I ate and what I did. I kept saying to myself to not get too happy and attached as it could happen again. Yeah okay this time I have seen a baby but, what’s to say something else might go wrong? I didn’t feel like I could handle going through it again. I thought to myself that once I see the baby in the scan again, I will be less paranoid. Sitting in the waiting room at the hospital made me feel so sick. The memories of me waiting here before thinking everything was okay and to learn it wasn’t, got me scared. After being called in and the sonographer confirmed the baby is fine, I thought I should be relieved. Hearing that everything is fine didn’t make my paranoia get any better. I was still worried and thinking of the worse. Don’t get me wrong, I was happy that everything was okay with the baby but I was just so scared. 

I decided to pretend that I was okay and happy. I thought that if I pretend everything is okay that I will then believe it and everything will be fine. I told close friends and family of the news and they were all happy for me. It is nice knowing I had other people around to help support me. 

After speaking to my midwife, she recommended I speak to my doctor about how I felt mentally. He then recommended I contact a couple of companies for counselling. I have now had a couple of sessions of 1 to 1 counselling to help me talk about my worries. It helps being able to speak to someone who doesn’t know me and won’t judge me for how I feel. Everyone is different and have their own ways of dealing with things but for me, I find counselling helpful. 

When it came to my 20 week scan, I wasn’t half as nervous as I was before. I was more nervous about finding out the sex this time. My partner and I told the sonographer we would like to know the sex in which; after a few moments of her checking a few things, she confirmed we will be having a baby boy. 

We are both so excited and starting to get ready for little man’s arrival. We have been thinking of names and also looking at cots, prams etc. I feel I can now focus on the good things and not have to worry that something will go wrong. I don’t want to let my paranoia get the better of me, I want to enjoy the pregnancy and make the most of it.

As I hit 31 weeks, I started to get itchy hands and feet. I discussed this with my doctor and midwife in which, after a few blood tests they have confirmed I have obstetric cholestasis. I am now having to have blood tests every week and have my baby monitored for his heart beat and movement. At first I was worried but; I have got my head around this and thought I am not the only woman to get this. They have prescribed me with cream and allergy tablets to help with the itchiness. Even though this meant that I will not be able to get my water birth I hoped for as I am now consultant led, I know that I will be looked after in the hospital and I can get through anything with my partner.

I certainly feel ready to meet my little boy as the tiredness and aching back/neck kicks in. I only have a couple more weeks at work and then my maternity leave starts – I can’t wait!  I still need to pack my hospital bag but I will get around to this soon! The nursery still needs to be decorated but, as he will be sleeping with us for the first 6 months, we are not rushing to get this done. 

Having my partner and my parents with me through this journey has made it easier for me. I still get paranoid but, with the support of everyone I know I can get through this. Besides, having up and down days are the joys of our hormones in pregnancy! Bring on the labour

Thank you to Sophie for sharing her pregnancy journey.

Sophie used Insight Healthcare to access counselling  which is free to use with NHS – https://www.insighthealthcare.org/our-services/talking-therapies/types-of-therapies/counselling/ 

Sophie has since sent me a message to let me know there little man, Rowan arrived safely on  8th October.  Isn’t he just beautiflul?

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A pregnancy story by Luciminda

A pregnancy story by Luciminda

Pregnancy story by Luciminda 

Welcome to the third in a series of  posts written for you by real Mum’s to be.  Each article will share the pregnancy story of one Mum to be, who will each share their labour and delievary experience when baby arrives.  I hope that these real life accounts of pregnacy will help other expectant Mum’s to feel secure in the knowledge that the things they experience and feel during their pregnancy are all normal events and emotions and part of the journey to motherhood.

Lucieminda’s Pregnancy story

Today we meet Lucieminda, a first time Mummy to be.

My husband and I had decided to start trying for a baby in October (2018) and were extremely shocked and happy to see two lines on a cheap pregnancy test the following month, a few days before my period was due. Unfortunately this turned out to be a chemical pregnancy, something many women go through without even realising as women just think they’ve just come on their period a couple of days late. After this happened we decided not to get our hopes up in thinking we would get pregnant fast, we didn’t “try” in November and just decided to see what happened. Christmas Eve came and after attending midnight mass with my family we got home and began late night preparations ready to host Christmas dinner the next morning. Then something told me, I don’t know what it was but something told me to take a test, again, a few days before my period was due. Lo and behold there was a faint line, I immediately took a photo and secretly showed my husband, afraid to get his hopes up again he just smiled and said “we’ll see” and we definitely did. 2am Christmas morning was the first time we saw a glimpse of hope that our lives would change forever.

 

Boxing Day, after a long drive down to Essex to spend the day with my Husbands family, we stopped off at Tesco to buy some flowers for his Nan. We decided to try our luck and buy a ClearBlue digital test too and as soon as we arrived at his Nan’s I snuck off to the toilet and took the test. Anyone who has taken one of these tests before will know how long the loading symbol stays on the tiny screen for, before showing the word PREGNANT. My heart was racing as I waited for it to tell me how far gone I was. 

  Other than the positive tests and the darkening lines of the multiple cheap tests I took for the next week or so, and my missed period, I would never have known I was pregnant. I didn’t feel pregnant, but I was sure I would soon. 

People might think the amount of tests I took was excessive but I didn’t want to see the lines fade like I did last time, so seeing them get darker each day kept my hopes alive. 7 weeks and we decided to have a private scan to not only confirm it, but to also put our minds at rest and allow us to be a little excited. It was the cutest little blob I had ever seen and seeing the flickering heart beat felt so surreal and as I saw the tears build in my husbands eyes I knew this was real for both of us. 

Each week would pass running up to our 12 week scan and I would wait for the dreaded sickness to arrive, but it didn’t, and it still hasn’t at 28 weeks. I felt like it wasn’t normal to feel so well, people had told me that the first trimester is one of the worst and I would struggle to hide the terrible symptoms. The only symptoms I felt during the first trimester were tiredness, and slightly sore breasts right at the beginning. 

12 week scan had arrived and our anxiety hit, praying everything would be okay we tried not to think about it too much. Then this time seeing a baby shaped blob moving around, legs in the air, thumb in mouth, we knew everything was okay. 

We could finally tell the world we were expecting our first child! 

Week 17 we booked a private gender scan as we were so excited to find out the sex of our first baby. Many people, especially the older generation judged me for wanting to know the gender. “You’re ruining the surprise” “It wasn’t an option when I had children” All I can say is that it is your body, your baby and with the pressure of being a first time mum don’t let that hinder your choices.

From day one I was convinced we were having a boy, I could put money on it and I was right! We were and are over the moon to be having a little boy, we would be just as pleased if we were having a girl but knowing he was healthy and being able to imagine him when he would arrive added more to our excitement. 

3 weeks later we had our 20 week scan, the most important scan which checks on the baby’s organs and growth and you can also confirm/find out your baby’s sex. We loved this scan because we saw him on the screen for a while as they checked everything thoroughly, wriggling around, sucking his thumb again and getting himself into awkward positions which made it difficult for the ultrasound technician sometimes.

Second trimester has been a breeze, with my very fast growing bump and lots of wriggles, I am constantly reminded of this miracle inside of me. I don’t take any second of this experience for granted and I am very lucky to not have had any nasty symptoms. It’s getting harder to breathe, I’m getting a little tired and I am well aware this third and final trimester will be hard, but the countdown has begun for when we get to meet our little boy.

I am now 36 weeks and 2 days, not much has changed over the last few weeks as we have prepared for our new arrival. At my 28 week appointment he was measuring 3 weeks too big so I needed a growth scan and indeed he was big, but still within the “normal”. I had a text for gestational diabetes which, thankfully, turned out to be negative, he’s just a big baby. Finishing work was a mix of emotions, sad because I’d be leaving my job 25 miles away for good, but also released that i could prepare for the baby and also nap whenever I wanted. Now it’s just the waiting game, my belly is HUGE and his head is measuring large so hopefully he’s a little earlier than expected. We shall see. 

Thank you to Luciminda for sharing her pregnancy journey.

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A pregnancy story by Joanne

A pregnancy story by Joanne

Pregnancy story by Joanne

Welcome to the second in a series of  posts written for you by real Mum’s to be.  Each article will share the pregnancy story of one Mum to be, who will each share their labour and delievary experience when baby arrives.  I hope that these real life accounts of pregnacy will help other expectant Mum’s to feel secure in the knowledge that the things they experience and feel during their pregnancy are all normal events and emotions and part of the journey to motherhood.

Joanne’s Pregnancy story

Today we meet Joanne and Megan.  As a same sex couple Joanne’s journey to pregnancy is a little different.  Megan has written a lovely account of their journey to parenthood from the perspective of baby Matson. 

Finding a donor

For most women the search for the father of their child begins way before they decide to even have a child… they are hunting for a friend, a partner, a mate… for my mummies, they found each other first. After a short courtship, a slightly longer engagement and an even shorter marriage they decided it was time to turn two into three!

It wasn’t as ‘easy’ as monitoring hormones and finding the right time – they had to hit the internet to find a donor – to find a generous, selfless human being who would be willing to give them the greatest gift – ME!

The process of finding a donor is not as easy as you might think – instinctually you look these men and their photographs and you view them as you would a partner. They had to fight these feelings and look for men who would be suitable DNA providers, not life partners. They found many men and communicated with these gentlemen only for them to change their mind, or let them down when it came to meeting them.

But they found The One! A PhD scientist (Big Mummy is a scientist) and a history nerd (so is Little Mummy). He is tall like Big mummy with blue eyes like little mummy. He was keen, willing and also happy to donate to bless me with a sibling!

Finding out they were pregnant

After 8 donations they were beginning to feel like this wouldn’t happen for them. With little mummy being older she was going first. They had done everything “right”. Little mummy had stopped drinking, she was taking her conception vitamins every day, she was eating well, drinking lots of water, and weeing on ovulation strips constantly. Multiple tracking apps were being used to ensure they covered all of their bases.

Thursday night before half term, Big Mummy had noticed the dogs were being weird… “Shall we do a test?” Little Mummy went into the downstairs loo, and took the test – Big Mummy was watching through the crack in the door. Big Mummy knew from the look on Little Mummy’s face that the test was positive! They both cried a bit, and laughed a bit and got excited… then got really scared…

Early scare

So I was just chilling and growing, but Little Mummy had a little bit of tummy pain – nothing to do with me… but her and Big Mummy were scared so they went to the doctor who sent them for a scan… I was there, but I was tiny, just a little yolk sac no heart beat yet (but seriously what did they want from me?!). The nice lady at the hospital brought them back two weeks later and there I was with my beating heart… Both of my mummies were so excited to see my little beating heart and that I was growing as the doctors expected me to.

12 week scan – how things had changed

My mummies didn’t tell many people about me growing inside of Little Mummy – just one of my aunties and a couple of people at work who needed to know! It was the last day of term before the Christmas holidays, and they had to go for the 12 week dating scan.

Drinking the litres of water ready for the scan was very difficult for Little Mummy, and she had to be a little bit sick in the car park! I don’t mean to make her sick… but Big Mummy finds it very funny!

There I was – a perfectly formed little baby. Ten fingers and toes, and a squishy nose. I was perfect and they both fell in love with me instantly! They couldn’t wait to get back to work to tell EVERYONE that they know that they were expecting their June bundle of joy!

Ssssshhhhh to social media – telling the family/friends

Once my mummies had that 12 week scan they set about telling friends and family. They wanted to make the announcement for the family special – so they printed special frames and put my scan picture into the frames and wrapped them up as Christmas presents. We went around to the family to visit and they gave them one to open early. Some family members were SUPER EXCITED. My auntie was also growing my cousin Grace at the time so she was so really excited that her baby could be friends with me. I mean who wouldn’t want to be friends with me.

My mummies have decided that they don’t want me to be splashed all over social media, and also have decided to keep the pregnancy a little bit schtum until I come out. It has been hard for them as the close friends who know do know keep tagging them in things on FaceBook! 

20 week scan – no sex please

With the excitement of their last Christmas as just the two of them, the few weeks between my dating and anomaly scans flew by. Before they knew it we were back at the hospital and that same lady was pushing into me… she kept trying to look at my different bits and pieces and well I found it rude and an intrusion. So in true Baby Matson style, I made life as difficult for her as I possibly could. If she wanted to look at my face, I covered it with my hand. When she wanted to look at my heart, I crossed my arms across my chest… and when she wanted to look at my nether regions I crossed my legs! I mean really – HOW RUDE… 

Long before I was even a twinkle in their eyes, they agreed that they would remain Team Yellow. Anyway I heard her tell my mummies to look away when she was look at the bum end – then I heard my little mummy tell my big mummy off because she tried to sneak a peak. Big Mummy might be brilliant at literally everything she does, but even she couldn’t tell if I was a boy or a girl. Long before I was even a twinkle in their eyes, they agreed that they would remain Team Yellow.

The longest wait EVER

After the anomaly scan my mummies started shopping for me – they started to buy me clothes, and nappies (real ones that they have to wash my poo off of) and even some toys. They went off for a long drive (obviously they took me with them) and came home with a cot and a chest of drawers and a special chair for mummy to sit in when she feeds me. I heard them talking about colours and themes – can’t wait to see what they chose! To be honest I found it a little boring and so fell asleep and didn’t find out.

The next 20 weeks would be the longest in my two mummies lives – I continued to grow and kick my little mummy from the inside… then kick my big mummy through my little mummy.

My little mummy got bigger and bigger until she resembled a weeble – I mean one time she even fell over in the garden and wobbled back and forth unable to get up – big mummy may have stood in the kitchen watching through the window… laughing…

My pet dogs were obsessed with me – they kept insisting on lying on my little mummy with their heads on me. I tried to kick them off but my legs are still only little and all they did was get jiggled around.

The nice midwife kept pushing and prodding me – trying to figure out how I was lying – she didn’t realise that I still have plenty of room to float and twist and turn in there. Big mummy kept herself busy washing my clothes and blankets and my Auntie Tamsin threw my mummies the loveliest of baby showers where I was spoilt with lovely thoughtful gifts.

Little mummy insisting on staying at work for as long as possible, which annoyed big mummy a little bit – think big mummy was worried I would arrive AT SCHOOL! They would probably have to have named me after the school – not sure I like the idea of being called Haven Matson!?

They have taken me to all the classes – how to get me out, how to care for me and about how I will develop. They took me for a walk around the hospital – I really liked the birthing pool – I hope I get to swim in there. Now all they have to do is wait. I like to wind big mummy up by pushing little mummy around and making her think she has back pain so they get excited and think that I am coming. I will come when I am ready – and not a moment sooner!

Thank you Joanne and Megan for sharing your pregnancy story with us.  Baby Matson has now been welcomed into the world and I look forward to sharing an udate with you all soon.

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A pregnancy story by Naomi

A pregnancy story by Naomi

Pregnancy story by Naomi

Welcome to the first in a series of  posts written for you by real Mum’s to be.  Each article will share the pregnancy story of one Mum to be, who will each share their labour and delievary experience when baby arrives.  I hope that these real life accounts of pregnacy will help other expectant Mum’s to feel secure in the knowledge that the things they experience and feel during their pregnancy are all normal events and emotions and part of the journey to motherhood.

Naomi’s Pregnancy story

First up we meet Naomi.  Naomi is a midwife and a first time Mummy to be. Naomi shares her pregnancy story with us at 37 weeks gestation. 

My experience of pregnancy has truly been a wonderful one. Being my first pregnancy and being a midwife myself I thought I knew all the answers about being pregnant and having a child. But being a midwife doesn’t give you that mother’s instinct – that is what has set my profession and being a mummy-to-be apart. Having this experience for myself has developed my knowledge and empathy further, making me a better midwife.

Finding out I was pregnant was a very wanted surprise, so when the £1 pregnancy test taken out of curiosity showed two lines, I screamed with excitement. My husband and I had been trying for a few months and after a few major melt downs by me, I thought we wouldn’t get pregnant. So that day I surprised my husband as soon as he got back from work with the baby grow I had gotten made months ago. As all men are, he was quite clueless as to what the “little” gift was for.

This was really happening! In the early weeks I did experience some bleeding and was sent for a scan but thankfully everything was happy and healthy. Being a midwife, I think in some respect, made me worry more. My Husband thought was and is very good in keeping me level headed. Everything from then on has been generally straightforward and an absolute joy. I have loved being pregnant.

My husband and I chose not to find out about the gender of the baby and for us that has been one of the most exciting parts about being pregnant. From planning the gender neutral nursery and the fun in choosing names for both. However, nothing quite prepares you for the wonderful feeling of your baby’s little movements inside you. I did have a moment of concern at 32 weeks of pregnancy when I experienced an episode of reduced movements. When all the guidance I would usually give a woman, went straight out the window. As a mother carrying her child and the overwhelming need to protect them completely takes over. It’s an incredible feeling. Its important to know that each pregnancy is unique and you’ll soon understand the instinct of “something’s not right”. One piece of advice I would like to share is to call your maternity unit/midwife if you have any concern.

Even though I have enjoyed my pregnancy and it has mainly been straightforward, I have suffered with pelvic girdle pain in the last trimester. I definitely experienced the ‘pregnancy waddle’.  I think my boss called me a weeble wobble at point! I was looked after by my midwifery team and was referred to a physiotherapy for a support belt and exercises which did help. I also have hypothyroidism so needed to be under consultant care. However, one consultation later, I was discharged from consultant care and I was happy to be told I can still have a water birth when I go into labour.

Being pregnant your life seems to become so busy! All the antenatal appointments with the midwife, relentless blood pressure taking and urinalysis testing, antenatal classes, ultrasound scans, birth plans and preparing the nursery have all been a whirlwind of excitement. It’s important to grasp hold of every moment, as it comes and goes by so quickly. I have been carrying out pregnancy yoga and listening to hypnobirthing audios to help equip me for the upcoming event – labour! I feel like all the support I have received through pregnancy has prepared me for motherhood as well as it can and we are very excited for our awaiting arrival!

Thank you Naomi for sharing your pregnancy story with us.  I hope your delivery goes to plan and look forward to hearing more when your little bundle arrives.

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5 reasons to take pregnancy photos

5 reasons to take pregnancy photos

5 reasons to take Pregnancy photos

One of my biggest regrets when pregnant with my 2 girls is the lack of photos of my baby bumps.  I don’t have any of my first pregnancy and maybe one photo the 2nd time around.  Why?  Because I felt like a whale and was really self concious.  With my eldest I put on a lot of weight, and I mean a lot and I hated the way I looked.  It was mainly water retention so my whole body was swollen, I even went up two shoe sizes!  When I told Elizabeth this tale she laughed and asked if I have a picture,  and it breaks my heart that I had to say No!   With Alyssa it was the complete opposite, I gained very little weight and had the tiniest neatest bump ever but I was so busy running around after a 1 year old that I never made the time to record my journey.

With my own expereince at the forefront of my mind I want to share 5 great reasons why you should make sure you don’t end up with the same regrets as me.

1.  Pregnancy is a thing of beauty, awe and amazement.    You might feel tired, nauseous, sore, aching and frumpy, but those on the outside don’t see  the things that may lead you to think that you look terrible! Instead, your loved ones see a beautiful woman bringing a new life into the world, with a gorgeous little baby inside of her.

2.  If you don’t have pregnancy photos, you’ll lose the chance to create once in a lifetime memories – you can’t get back.  Photos also trigger memories, feelings, emotions… they help you remember more vividly. Even if you don’t care for the memory for yourself, I can promise you that when your children are older, they will be delighted to see the photos of their pregnant mummy, while they were growing inside of you. They won’t care, or see that you felt tired or frumpy, all they will see is the magic of pregnancy and the love you had for them before they were even born.

3.  Whether it is just the two of you, and bump, or if you have older siblings to join in on the fun, I’m a firm believer that you cannot  have too many photos of your family. Plus, if you already have little ones it’s a beautiful opportunity for them to bond and interact with your belly, all while being captured on camera.

4.  For most woman pregnancy is full of ups and downs, I know both my pregnancies were.  At times you will feel worn out, achy and fed up, and at others time gorgeous, excited, and on top of the world   Although it may feel a long time while your  baby is growing inside you, it is actually such a short journey, and that in itself is a reason to have that time photographed.  I think that it is wonderful to be able to look back once your baby is here, and have some beautiful images to do that with. 

5.  I think, finally, I just simply believe that pregnancy needs to be celebrated. It is such a precious gift to be carrying your baby.   Just as families will choose to have a baby photoshoot of their newborn baby, to celebrate their little one’s arrival, pregnancy is amazing and should be celebrated too.  I adore pregnancy photos for that reason, they are always full of excitement, happiness, anticipation, and love.  You have made a new life, and are keeping your baby safe until they are ready to be born and meet you.  Seriously, that amazing!

So if you are pregnant, please do get in touch to talk to me about a pregnancy photoshoot, and celebrate the little miracle growing inside you.

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