Becoming a Mum for the first time is the scariest yet most amazing experience ever. I asked some of my clients what tips and advice they would give to ladies embarking on motherhood. Here is what they said:
1) Accept that the concepts of time, day/night and routine don't exist for a while and that's OK.
2) The internet is EVIL and you should never research anything, especially during a 2am feed!! I love this tip. It is all to easy to go into a whirlwind of panic when you google your babies symptoms online. The best advise I can give is if your concerned pick up the phone to your Dr or out of hours service and speak to a professional. No worry is to small to get checked out.
3) Trust yourself and only take on board the advice you feel comfortable with. You know your baby...or at least you will once things calm down a bit.
4) Breastfeeding is hard, ask for help! Even if it's 2am don't worry that it's a stupid question and you should know how to do it! It's hard and doesn't come naturally.
5) It's ok to not get out the house for 3 months. It's ok to not get out of the house before 11am EVER!! Just stay home for a few weeks and enjoy your little bundle. Do not feel bad about doing nothing but care for and nurture them. The time is so precious and they start growing immediately there is no pause button.
6) Don't compare your child to others. Every one will do it in their own time.
7) Go with the flow, Babies don't come with an instruction manual and what works for one baby won't work for others. Every baby that comes through my photography studio doors responds to different calming techniques and each one likes some poses and not others. Work out what works with your baby and don't worry about what works for someone elses.
8) Accept all offers of help. Your not super woman and being a mum can be tough and draining. Your'll be a better parent for taking help and having some time for yourself.
9) Sleep when baby sleeps! It doesn't matter that there are dishes in the sink and you haven't had time for a shower. You need to snatch every opportunity to rest, especially in the early days.
10) Remember that no one is perfect and everyone has their own way of doing things.
And last but not least from a Mum of 2 (who are fast approaching their teenage years). Enjoy every minute! Make wonderful memories together and capture the moments with pictures and video. They grow up way to quickly and before you know it they won't want that late night cuddle or want you to walk them to school, they'll be too busy face timing their friends or planning sleepovers. Make time to relax and enjoy the little things.
Have you got some top tips that you would like to share with new mums, why not add them to the comments section for my readers to benefit from.